{"id":109858,"date":"2023-01-06T17:14:29","date_gmt":"2023-01-06T22:14:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/discover-grace.flywheelstaging.com\/?p=109858"},"modified":"2023-09-19T16:52:14","modified_gmt":"2023-09-19T20:52:14","slug":"counselors-corner-forget-new-years-resolutions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/discovergrace.com\/counselors-corner-forget-new-years-resolutions\/","title":{"rendered":"Counselor\u2019s Corner: Forget New Year\u2019s Resolutions"},"content":{"rendered":"[vc_row type=”full_width_content” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” scene_position=”center” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” overflow=”visible” overlay_strength=”0.3″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” gradient_type=”default” shape_type=””][vc_column column_padding=”padding-10-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”padding-10-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”left-right” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” gradient_type=”default”][split_line_heading animation_type=”line-reveal-by-space” font_style=”h3″ text_color=”#282e39″ line_reveal_by_space_text_effect=”default” stagger_animation=”true” content_alignment=”left” mobile_content_alignment=”inherit” link_target=”_self” text_content=”With a clear picture in your mind, it\u2019s time to choose practices that will help you become the person you desire.”][\/split_line_heading][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][divider line_type=”Small Line” line_alignment=”center” line_thickness=”2″ divider_color=”accent-color” animate=”yes”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”padding-10-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”left-right” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-bottom” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_column_text]Have you ever created grand resolutions only to watch February chew them up and spit them out? I have!<\/p>\n

My friends, there\u2019s a better way!<\/p>\n

Forget New Year\u2019s Resolutions, and create a Rule of Life. For centuries, the church has taught and used a rule of life for individuals and communities.<\/p>\n

What is a Rule of Life?<\/h4>\n

In The Emotionally Healthy Leader<\/i>, Pete Scazzero defines it like this:<\/p>\n

The term Rule of Life has its linguistic roots in an ancient Greek word that means \u2018trellis\u2019\u2026 it is a support structure that helps us to grow up and abide in Christ. This, in turn, enables our lives to thrive spiritually and our leadership to be abundantly fruitful.<\/p>\n

A rule of life helps us wrestle with the chaos of demands, determine what\u2019s important, and live a life of flourishing.<\/p>\n

Where to Begin<\/h4>\n

Who do you want to be?<\/i> Many have heard you can be whoever you want to be. Then life and cynicism suffocate our dreams with a weighted, wet blanket.<\/p>\n

While the idealism of \u201cyou can do whatever you want with your life\u201d is not the most helpful hot take, there\u2019s something profound about the question \u2014 Who do you want to be?\u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n

When creating a rule of life, this question is the best place to start.<\/p>\n

A rule of life is a powerful tool that helps us define our life, knowing when to say yes and no to opportunities. But before we start making commitments, we have to examine desire.<\/p>\n

What Do You Want?<\/h4>\n

Jesus repeatedly asked this question (Matthew 20:21,23; Mark 10:36, 51; Luke 18:41). If Jesus asked you, what would you say?<\/p>\n

When attempting to bring definition to our life, we must begin with desire.<\/p>\n